Hello,

First of all I don’t really get the actual meaning of “please”. I understand it as it used to make a polite request. However I have rarely seen any westerner saying “please” on either Lemmy, Mastodon or IRC. where I live using “please” (मेहरबानी) is used often.

  • MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    I say it often in my day to day life. I don’t use it much on Lemmy because I rarely ask anyone to do anything on here

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    8 months ago

    There’s rarely a use for it online. It’s used to make a request, and a lot of online discourse is making statements.

    Irl, it’s a lot more common

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    8 months ago

    “Please” is used more in verbal or formal communication in English. I wouldn’t typically use it when writing a comment here as online comment sections are considered informal written communication. But I would always say it if I was asking a food service worker for something.

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    8 months ago

    “Please” is short for “if it pleases you” or “if you please”. It’s used to turn a command into a request. It’s probably not used on Lemmy, etc. because we’re not requesting things of each other a lot.

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      8 months ago

      It’s probably not used on Lemmy, etc. because we’re not requesting things of each other a lot.

      Speak for yourself please. Make me a sandwich please

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    8 months ago

    People say it in person a lot. Another factor might be that some people view it coming across as either non genuine or passive aggressive in written form.

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    8 months ago

    Online discourse tends not to be the kind of place (in the English-speaking world) where “please” is the appropriate response.

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    7 months ago

    Online? No. It comes off as snarky.

    In real life, and emails? All the time. Please and thank you.

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    8 months ago

    I’m fanatical about saying please and thank you, and it drives me batty that others don’t. Someone offers you a snack, say no thank you, don’t say “no I don’t like those” like a goddamned toddler.

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    8 months ago

    In Australia in the aboriginal culture I was raised in, there is no word for please. We never used it growing up

    We have a ward for thank you mah,

    We say thank you but if you have something and can give it and someone asks you are obliged to provide.

    In today’s world this causes many problems with money etc though.

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      8 months ago

      Gonna need a source for this claim, please.

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          8 months ago

          Indeed. That’s why I didn’t also add a question mark.

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            8 months ago

            Need is directly in opposition to please. This makes your addition an ironic use of please, and not a polite one, which actually fits the ops observation better than the initial comment did.

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              8 months ago

              Maybe in some cases, but in this case the use of “need” is insincere in the first place. A please at the end softens and adds a little bit of humility to what was originally a somewhat hostile response.