It is very, very clear, reading your other comments that you are incapable of grasping the concept of a decentralized or distributed network paradigm.

Maybe go look at how torrents work, how I2P works, how a MeshNet works.

Other metaphors would be a guerilla warfare network of cells vs a top down conventional hierarchy where individual units are allowed a degree of autonomy within certain bounds.

The AT Protocol system is not capable of operating in a non centralized manner.

Your only option is to point your PDS at either the official network of Relays… or set up your own system of Relays, and point your PDS at that.

Likewise for an AppView, you can either point yours to sync with the official network of Relays… or another network of Relays.

There is no meshing, where nodes on the mesh control what other nodes they interface with… there is only branching or forking, setting up an entirely parellel structure, that is not capable of synchronizing with the original.

Beyond that, you still have not addressed that you said a blatantly self contradicting statement; that people self host relays, but also they don’t self host relays because that is costly and the self hosted relay code available to the public is experimental and mainly used for reasons tangential to the core function of a production ready relay.

And for the I think third time I have asked this, not of you personally, but in this thread:

Who is hosting a Relay other than BlueSky?

Can you provide evidence any independent person has figured out how to do this and is actually doing it?

I would gladly accept new information and adjust my own understanding accordingly, but all I have seen in this thread so far is multiple people claiming that there are self hosted Relays, and then either providing no evidencd, or showing that they don’t understand the subject and post a link to a guide to, or example of, somehow setting up an AppView or PDS.