I’m 30 years old (soon to be 31). I’m a new trans woman (still working through how I might accept it and see myself). I’m unsure how far I should go. I’ve spoken at some length on other communities about what it feels like to be “ugly and masc”. I realize feeling like I can’t “pass” as a fem is partly due to deeply rooted transphobia. I have what most older men have: masculine distribution of fat (bit of a belly), hairy everywhere, fears of balding (so far not yet), deepish voice, etc.
If I had no friends or family, I’d probably just go all in: hormone therapies, voice training, surgeries, etc. But I feel like I need to pass in front of my immediate family since I’m sure I wouldn’t be accepted. I love them, but they wouldn’t get it.
I don’t know how far I should go with transitioning. I am currently considering growing out my hair, shaving, and trying to do exercises that conform my body to a more stereotypical feminine shape. Is there a lot of risk in hormone therapies and voice training? Is it hard to go “boy mode” after the fact? What about being 30+ years old and starting it? Should I just accept I’ll never pass?
I’m hoping I can get lucky with my genetics. I definitely don’t have it in the face lol but maybe if I lose some weight it’ll help.
I met up with some friedns for brunch this weekend and one of them said “Your weight loss is going well and you don’t look like you’re cradle-robbing anymore.”. My spouse and I were very confused, since we’re almost the same age. Estrogen and weight loss together are the literal fountain of youth. My personal favorite weight loss tool that isn’t “eat less” was getting on Zwift. Plus, cycling helps with your legs and butt. Wins all around!