I was wondering if anyone has advice or pointers for meeting up with transgender folx and allies in “meatspace”. I see postings for events all the time, but they’re either for youth (which is great, we need to protect trans kids and promote their growth and well being!), or they’re mixers. I’m happily married, can’t drink alcohol, and was never a “club” type of person. There doesn’t seem to be much else other than support groups, and the one meeting I ever attended showed that I was certainly not the intended audience. In my hobbies, you don’t meet people even though you’re in a sea of them (running and cycling) and my job is fully remote and niche, so that’s not really a mingle opportunity either. I feel like I’m overwhelming my spouse with conversation as soon as they get home from work. They’ve taken to calling it “pumpking spice” every time I do, in reference to the Last Week Tonight bit about pumpkin spice season taking over everything. I guess I’m just looking to find others to relate to and make some acquaintances, or even friends, of people who would actually understand me. In our age range, this feels like it’s a very difficult thing to do.
For me personally, it looks a lot like the only real option would be using Facebook to join groups and maybe try to make some friends and find events to attend in that way. Other than just looking for certain clubs to show up at on a Friday or Saturday night. And I’m kinda over clubs at this point in my life as well.
So it seems to me that the only real answer is to try and meet people online first. But in less anonymous spaces where the goal is to actually make friends with real people that live in the same region as you.
I am trying to avoid this, though I know it’s proably a good answer. I’ve never had an account with any of Meta’s properties and I block them at the router (hooray for a null-route-injecting route reflector). Outside of Lemmy, I’ve never participated in any social media whatsoever, even though I was around in the BBS days. I suppose time on IRC counts, sort of? It just feels so slimy to me.
The thing about clubs and other events like that is they almost always mean “looking to date”. I’ve been happily married for a very long time and we don’t intend to alter that arrangement. I want to meet friends, not potential partners.
All this to say that it’s not what I wanted to hear, but you’re likely right and I value your input. Thank you!
Yeah I’m not even sure what the options are outside of that anymore lol. I think older generations used to meet other people at church and shit. If you’re religious, I guess that’s always an option. It’s been so long since I’ve befriended new people outside of the internet myself and the only thing that I can think of for myself is going out to gigs and stuff like that.
I’m sure it’s not what you want to hear either but maybe an online friendship would be the next best thing for you and at least give you someone to pumpkin spice to your heart’s content lol.
Either way, I hope you manage to find what you’re looking for. And if you find out where adults go to meet without getting drunk or horny, please share.