I’m saying that human civilization, and especially puritanical societies of this civilization of which we are one in the US, have walled away the core of what we are, animals that want to fuck, trained us through a prism of shame to loathe that part of us, that we darkly call being civilized, and filled our days generating things that will provide us no meaning, as the closest thing to meaning that can be derived by our biology is getting as much dopamine and serotonin as possible through physical human connection, and we spend most of our time being told the greatest lever for that is shameful and harmful usually because it doesn’t make strangers richer, which is ridiculous in an age where if we had the correct priorities we would be able to do for fun as procreation that comes as a result is now chemically optional.
My point is humanity spends a whole lot of its time being miserable, toiling for widgets, to pursue or accept sexual partners in a roundabout way because we’ve made that that a small, token, conditional cookie for doing the “important” stuff, which I find sad and fascinating to observe. The point being used as a bargaining chip for the pointless, and then all parties wondering why they’re still anxious and depressed because they either didn’t come to terms, or because they did and it turns out all the plastic, silicon, and tea in china can’t provide even a passing shadow of the fulfillment of genuine, physical human connection can, and even that physical human connection is tarnished being turned into just another form of currency or coercion for stuff that doesn’t matter at all. How much does humanity toiling for that does not matter instead of fucking?
Tldr humanity would be happier if we were trained to see sex as connection with one another and not that dirty, evil thing of which we rarely speak and if we do it is with the utmost sense of serious danger. It’s too late for most existing humans though, as you can’t go to full grown adults steeped in that cultural stigma and say “oops we fucked up, our sexuality isnt some taboo evil thing with no place in society.” The damage is done. My hill is that shouldn’t continue that harmful culture going forward, but I recognize I’ll die on that hill as a tiny minority that sees the harm it does.
I’m saying that human civilization, and especially puritanical societies of this civilization of which we are one in the US, have walled away the core of what we are, animals that want to fuck, trained us through a prism of shame to loathe that part of us, that we darkly call being civilized, and filled our days generating things that will provide us no meaning, as the closest thing to meaning that can be derived by our biology is getting as much dopamine and serotonin as possible through physical human connection, and we spend most of our time being told the greatest lever for that is shameful and harmful usually because it doesn’t make strangers richer, which is ridiculous in an age where if we had the correct priorities we would be able to do for fun as procreation that comes as a result is now chemically optional.
My point is humanity spends a whole lot of its time being miserable, toiling for widgets, to pursue or accept sexual partners in a roundabout way because we’ve made that that a small, token, conditional cookie for doing the “important” stuff, which I find sad and fascinating to observe. The point being used as a bargaining chip for the pointless, and then all parties wondering why they’re still anxious and depressed because they either didn’t come to terms, or because they did and it turns out all the plastic, silicon, and tea in china can’t provide even a passing shadow of the fulfillment of genuine, physical human connection can, and even that physical human connection is tarnished being turned into just another form of currency or coercion for stuff that doesn’t matter at all. How much does humanity toiling for that does not matter instead of fucking?
Tldr humanity would be happier if we were trained to see sex as connection with one another and not that dirty, evil thing of which we rarely speak and if we do it is with the utmost sense of serious danger. It’s too late for most existing humans though, as you can’t go to full grown adults steeped in that cultural stigma and say “oops we fucked up, our sexuality isnt some taboo evil thing with no place in society.” The damage is done. My hill is that shouldn’t continue that harmful culture going forward, but I recognize I’ll die on that hill as a tiny minority that sees the harm it does.