When someone sees you at your worst and your most vulnerable, and they can not only handle it but (this part is very important) they don’t then use it as ammo against you down the line, you know they’re a keeper.
There’s never really any single event that builds trust. Trust is just built over time. When it’s broken, it’s hard if not impossible to build back.
There could be multiple factors and interactions that build trust, right? As others mentioned in the comment section, some of those include supporting you at your worst and accepting “no” for an answer.
He accepted “no” for an answer the first time without any argument or attempt to coerce, listened when I explained why the answer was “no”, and offered comfort and sympathy in response to the reasoning with no expectation of the answer changing.
There hasn’t been any single major event - just years upon years of proving that they were trustworthy.
I trusted him implicitly, then when I really needed him, he left because he wasn’t getting what he wanted out of the relationship any more.
