Lumelore (She/her)

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I can confirm it does. It is a lot rarer now for me to experience anger and it is a lot easier for me to cry. I also had a change in taste as well. I used to hate blueberries, grapes, and asparagus but now I love them. I’ve also found that my tolerance and cravings for spicy food has increased as well. Those changes all occured within my first few months of taking HRT.

    (PS, I hope you are able to get HRT soon)




  • Thanks for your advice, though I actually have all my documents updated already except for my birth certificate. Sex is self determined here on driver’s licenses and etc so all my other documents already have an F marker on it.

    I changed my name when I was about 8 months on hrt so I didn’t qualify for getting an ACT letter then. So I figured I’d just change it later, but yeah I agree it’d be easier to do both at once.

    From what I have read my birth certificate changes will be private (only if done via court order) however my name change is public unfortunately. I don’t think it’s possible for that to be private here unless there’s like a victim protection thing going on.




  • Thanks

    In Minnesota, afaik, getting a letter of ACT only requires a year of hormone therapy (there are exceptions for people who can’t or don’t want to afaik) and, for updating documents, is only necessary for amending the sex field on a birth certificate. I know many other states, primarily red states, have stricter requirements, or they just don’t allow it period, so I consider myself lucky. I’m not aware of any states that let people amend their sex on their birth certificate without a letter of ACT though.

    At this point in time all of my documents say I’m female except for my birth certificate and all I’m currently waiting for is my ACT letter and my other supporting document to come in the mail.







  • I use obsidian for just text stuff I need to remember later. If I need to do math or need a diagram temporarily I prefer pencil and paper. If I want to save diagrams for later I have a drawing tablet that I use like a whiteboard so that I can save and use layers. If you don’t have a drawing tablet Autodesk sketchbook is a decent substitute that can be used on your phone.





  • I am a trans woman so I understand how it feels to not have the hormones you want in your body. It’s literal hell. You are allowed to have your own feelings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Your wife’s mental state is just in the gutter right now and that’s why she’s lashing out at you.

    I’d recommend seeing a professional so she can get prescribed estradiol. That’s really the only thing that’s going to fix it.


  • As a young person who grew up on the internet, with no parental oversight, I can say it’s because there is a lot of right wing bullshit online that media companies love to push on their users. When I was a tween I got suckered into it hard when one day youtube decided to put mgtow videos in my recommended feed. I never initially searched for them. I did eventually get out of it, and I’m not entirely sure how, but I remember as a 13yo seeing trump in 2016 bully that disabled reporter and it really put a sour taste in my mouth. And then over the next few years that led to me leaving catholicism, becoming a socialist, and realizing I’m transgender and very gay.

    With me being transgender and pan, that adds another aspect to it, because I think I knew subconsciously that I was queer as a tween, but growing up in an environment where I was repeatedly told those things were wrong led to me feeling absolutely miserable about myself, and misery loves company. And this also makes me wonder how many nazis are queer and don’t even realize it or refuse to recognize it.