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8 days agoI feel like flirting isn’t really something people do while dating nowadays. I (and probably some other women) find it more annoying if you wanna get to know the other person. Most flirting I like is after you’re already in a relationship, because you can be sure that the other person is safe and not a creep. Of course you still need to find a way to show interest
First of all, gender expression and being trans is a vast field. While there are a bunch of labels one can use and that fit for many, this doesn’t cover everybody and their experiences.
Second, there are many forms of dysphoria, not all have to do with being uncomfortable in your body.
With understanding this and only having your description from this post, there are signs of both of this (at least some I interpreted that way while reading). As far as my understanding of the demi label goes, one only feels like that gender in certain situations or at certain times. If that is “on the internet” for you, then it isn’t far fetched. While you feel comfortable as a woman, you also said you’d desire male genitalia, which even without any pain from it is still dysphoria. If you want to be perceived as male sometimes or just online, that’s a form of dysphoria too.
I’d recommend to you to do some soul-searching and introspection to find an answer for yourself. It doesn’t sound like you’re trans-masc, but maybe demiboy, genderfluid or non-binary would fit you? Nobody can answer that for you though and it is fine for you to be something that doesn’t have a label.
Now I would say it’s kind of inappropriate to call yourself trans-masc online if you don’t consider yourself that. It might be seen as appropriating an identity or pain you don’t actually have. Many trans people suffer from their dysphoria and taking that label just for the optics is maybe not that nice (similar to how people pretending to be another race isn’t a good thing). Connecting this to my previous point: many trans people do start out pretending to be another gender online to experiment. If it feels comfortable to you, maybe you should think about that a bit