Thordros [he/him, comrade/them]

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Cake day: July 26th, 2020

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  • brigade threads like with Hexbear

    Gondor has called for aid?! Rohan will answer!


    As a more serious response: we… don’t actually do that. It’s not a coordinated thing. There’s no Secret Hexbear Discord Cabal where we congregate and conspire to raid an instance and be dickheads. It’s organic content from real people.

    Very early on (years before federation and the Reddit exodus) we made a decision to remove downvotes from our instance. We were having a serious problem with trans users being anonymously bullied by a small number of bad actors downvoting all their content. So, we purged those assholes’ accounts and turned downvotes off. The intent was to encourage a culture of active participation by de-anonymizing disagreement. If you want to disagree with something on Hexbear, you need to say it out loud in public.

    Post-federation, other instances interpreted that as “brigading”. It isn’t. If we see something we think is bad, we tell you, instead of just pressing the “I Disagree” button. I understand that isn’t to everybody’s taste, and I don’t blame anybody for blacklisting our Lemmy instance—we intentionally buck the trend of passive scrolling through social media. If you just want to share some memes and have a lark, Hexbear probably isn’t for you. And that’s fine! That’s what’s cool about Lemmy—you can just shut off a community you don’t like!

    (And, anticipating responses: yes, I am aware that there’s a small segment of Hexbears who seem to enjoy inter-instance drama. That’s true of all instances, though. We regularly see the same kind of behavior from visitors back home, too. But, we’ve got a culture of being extremely vocal. So our assholes are loud, too. And if something is organically popular enough to show up cross-instance, they’ll dogpile on it. Sorry about that.)


















  • You seem to be very intentionally dodging the question everybody in this discussion has been asking: Why are you, an adult, being taken care of by a family member?

    Aside from very literally answering the question by saying, “Well my sister is taking care of me because Mom is gone,” you haven’t addressed the subtext of that question: why do you need taking care of at all? Do you have some form of condition that requires you to have a caregiver as an adult?

    Please make careful note of sentences I have written that end in question marks (“?”)—those answers are important.