Would you like to experiment with people using she/her pronouns?

I think so? I’ve used he/they for a while, but people tend to just go with the ‘he’, which feels less and less like me. And it reminds me that most everyone sees me as male, as little as I identify with that. I just need someone I can trust to try them out with without judgment

Would you like to get feminising hormones?

Possibly? It feels like a big commitment though, and I might need to look into having sperm preserved first, since my wife and I do want kids. The effects sound mostly like things I want, but it feels like a “point of no return“ that I don’t know if I’m ready for yet

Would you like to present feminine more often?

100%. My hair is getting pretty long, and I really like having my nails painted. I started shaving my chest, and I want to start shaving my legs and buy some women’s clothes, like skirts and tank tops. And I want to get my earlobes pierced soon to start wearing earrings (in addition to the cartilage piercings i already have). I already get pretty self conscious when I go to work just with long hair and painted nails though. It’s a more conservative field (engineering) so I feel very much like people are looking at me, or I’m the odd one out, and I get nervous about how much I’m pushing the boundaries of what people expect me to be like.

I think I’m going to keep doing more to present more feminine, especially at home, and probably have some conversations with my wife about trying out new pronouns a little.

Thank you for all the advice, I appreciate it :)

For most of my life I identified as “just a regular dude… unfortunately”.

I felt that way for a long time (and still do sometimes). Being raised in a subculture that so heavily reinforces gender roles, it took a long time for me to understand the breadth of people’s gender experiences.

You might like to reflect some more on what this implies about your gender.

I define will, and fortunately, I have therapy this weekend. My therapist has been great about helping me work out some of my gender feelings in a positive and non-judgmental way

And thank you for recommending the sidebar! I’m usually on mobile, so I forget sidebars are a thing, I’ll check out the resources there

Sounds like a great therapist, I’m glad you found her!

It’s funny, I feel somewhat the opposite - I think I might prefer a female body over my current male one, but I don’t have any particular issue with having a dick

Yeah, I was in a mood this morning. Seasonal depression is a doozy this time of year.

I’m actually planning to do some containers on my balcony this year. I do miss having an outdoor garden, though

Spend lots of time gardening, reading, writing, and painting. Unfortunately, it seems like I’m going to have to spend the next forty years as a wage slave before I can enjoy that life

Who cares? Texting is meant to be a convenience, not something that demands my attention. That’s the beauty of texting vs a phone call - I have time to think and do other things before replying

Less than Google is, for now. But still bad enough for me to be switching to Tuta

$5.75 - SW Michigan

And you have to do it within the narrow time and energy constraints created by needing to work to stay alive.

I’ll definitely do that! Thanks for the recommendations

Why is that? I’m switching away regardless, so I’m just curious. I started using it because it made everything simple

I don’t use any *arr, though I’ve been meaning to look more into it. I do use Jellyfin though, so I’ll probably start there.

I’ll take a look at Nginx proxy manager for domain configuration, like another user in this thread suggested

Thank you! That’s helpful. How would you go about setting up a password and 2FA for your own site? I would like to make my services “publicly” available (to myself and friends/family)

Thank you!

Are there any simple services you’d recommend starting with to get a feel for things? I’ll probably start with AdGuard, unless there’s a better option

And I don’t plan to use both at the same time, so conflicting ports shouldn’t be an issue.

Is the process for configuring your own domain with Docket enough of a pain that I should consider sticking with YunoHost?

It is pretty much just scaremongering. Marijuana, like any drug, can put a person in a mental state that can serve as a trigger for a psychological condition that someone is prone to, like if someone with a family history of anxiety gets way too uncomfortably high. It’s not necessarily the drug that’s at fault - it’s having a stressful experience of a bad time. I’ve never heard of psychosis induced by cannabis though.

Marijuana is just about the safest drug there is, and I think most people could safely try it with no ill effects.

I’m in the same boat. SimpleLogin is a nice feature, but if this is Proton’s position, they don’t get more of my money.

Firefox Relay seems like a good, free choice?

I could handle it if it was the CEO’s personal position - still gross, but whatever. To have this be the company’s official political position, though, I think I’m out.

Recommendations for alternative email and cloud storage providers? Mullvad seems the way to go for VPN

Ah yes, we need fewer nationwide gatherings of solidarity to build connections and prepare to work together over the next few years, and more fruitless calls for violence. That will definitely work.

You are not as strong as you think you are. Lift with your legs, not your back.