I met my last long term partner on a dating app, but these days it’s not a route I’d want to take. I met someone on discord more recently in a really wonderful community that allowed me to get to know him and make other friends with none of the same pressure

Have you tried using your toes?

The only reference I have to go on off the top of my head there is Django Unchained where a difference was noted for those working in the house vs fields. I imagine it was used as emotional manipulation to bribe them with better living conditions in some cases, though

Jokes aside, there have been cultures where women went into labor and would deliver by themselves away from the tribe. It’s been a while since I read about it, but iirc if she returned without the newborn is was either unacknowledged or at minimum just accepted as her decision. Imagine having a still birth or a child with extreme physical deficiencies prior to modern medicine. I do remember thinking when I read it that it surely resulted in women not returning, too, because childbirth can be risky even with a team of professionals.

Also wet nurses have been a thing, and the practices with that range from understandable to horrific - think wives of slave owners not wanting to breast feed, so they force a slave that’s given birth recently take on the duty, usually as a priority over their own child. Course, there’s always been women who couldn’t produce milk, so it has been done altruistically, too

Wait what the bloody fuck? I haven’t heard anything about this. Sounds right up their alley, but what evidence is it based on?

I’ve slept since I watched and am not great with tech, but iirc the link with the affiliate code when clicked takes you to the site. Then honey has a pop up that, when clicked, replaces the link with their own, swiping the commission. Hope that makes sense - most people likely would not catch it. The Linus tech tips was used as an example of even a tech channel with lots of employees taking quite a while to notice themselves, and even when they did, it wasn’t quite conclusive for some reason?

Another thing the video touched on is that honey would claim to search for coupons but often opt to show what the partnered companies want. So, could be there’s a coupon for 50% but they only show 10%.

I’ll add that two people can experience the same trauma but only one develop PTSD. I started a lecture series on trauma a while back that started off explaining that if you find yourself starting to have symptoms, try to catch yourself and remind yourself that you’re in a learning environment. That’s just one method, and it can be difficult to maintain without further education and training

Are they arguing it wasn’t random though? I mean Shakespeare had to think through the plot and everything, not just scribble nonsense on a page

Maybe they don’t take hot enough showers? I don’t always sweat, but for sure I’ve noticed more from taking hot baths

Hey, I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to respond but you had nothing to apologize for! I appreciated the conversation and had some confusion, but that’s why I originally commented to get clarification:) I enjoyed the chat, though, and hope you’re doing well!

This thread has been a gold mine for me OP, thank you 😂❤️

Oh gotcha, I totally agree it’s not a big part at all! Honestly, I didn’t experience an orgasm until well after I became sexually active, and very rarely with a partner since. It’s extremely important to me as I’m back “on the market” now and have really struggled in past relationships with it. I enjoy the whole aspect to it, exploring whole bodies, but I would very much like to find a relationship where my partner prioritizes helping me climax and has some patience with me on it.

By chance, did you talk with your gyno about vaginismus? Not sure if I’m spelling that right, but I’ve had a few friends mention that it’s painful, one friend saying she couldn’t wear tampons or anything. I could see why orgasming first would help the muscles to relax

My understanding is 80% of people with a uterus don’t climax from penetration, not that we find it necessarily unenjoyable (which is true for me, too; I do need clitoral stimulation to climax). I’ve taken courses on women’s studies, feminist philosophy, etc. to overcome the problematic religious attitudes my parents had, too - and lots of therapy! I’ll see if my library has that book available, though. I’m always interested in learning more.

I’m really sorry you had that experience growing up, though, that’s awful. As normal as our experiences felt to us having privacy invaded and all the shame, that much shouldn’t be normalized! I’m glad you’ve found what works for you, and I wish you all the most pleasurable experiences around it throughout the rest of your life 💝

Well, not that I think it has to be your experience by any means, that’s part of the beauty of life - we’re all a bit different and into different things. I do quite enjoy penetration without need for lube (I mean, I do need to have natural lube, obviously). I usually get myself there with just hands and might use a dildo when I’m worked up enough. Vibrators are great, no doubt. I don’t typically use toys, though, honestly. I did more in my teens when I was ignorant to how my body worked lol. Which is why I wrote the OG comment…I didn’t have appropriate toys, and it caused some shame on occasion. I knew it felt good but didn’t feel safe talking to my parents about it.

Uhh. Hi, woman here…RIP my inbox but I think it’s important parents talk to teenagers of all genders about this and consider having them look for toys they can experiment with if they express interest. Just because we don’t orgasm from penetration doesn’t mean it feels bad lol. Better they have toys available so they’re less likely to use something inappropriate.

Oooo Midwest social is left leaning??? This makes my rust belt ass happy

Aaaand I feel like an idiot, thanks 😅

I’m not voting for this scum, but yeah, we’ll see. Hoping it’ll make it to the ballot so the people can actually vote to amend the state constitution like others have. The people may be dumb at electing Representatives, but get a straight forward measure up for vote and the people seem to follow through in correcting it.

Sucks you’re being down voted, I mean maybe saying “idiot-proof” isn’t nice but comprehensive sex ed should cover helping those with a noodle understand how to find ones that fit comfortably and what main causes there are for breakage n whatnot. I’m currently having that discussion with my sex buddy, and I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve had people try to coerce me into letting them go raw dog in the past. Like keep in mind I’m in a state that has not only criminalized abortion but is defunding all planned parenthoods now.

Will definitely be awesome when all parties have comfortable, reliable, safe options to protect themselves