I generally use queer.

It’s often used in the names of university programs (e.g. queer studies), so I think it’s been pretty well reclaimed.

It is also intuitively inclusive of romantic minorities, which gives me the sense it will continue to be inclusive as the aforementioned acronym continues to grow.

An aside, I’m also all for reclaiming the t-slur (I am trans) but I don’t use it unless I am certain the people around me won’t be hurt.

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks.

Finally some good news on this topic! Let’s hope the courts listen to the science, here.