This form however seems well thought out overall, because they have an ‘other’ and a prefer not to say choice. Anything they didn’t specifically include is I guess technically is included, under the ‘other’ choice. Very vaguely.

Yeah, I mean sure it’s good that they are showing they know those identities exist. But this info could be used for any purpose, imagine being asked this in Russia. The government ‘could’ potentially literally target you in a bad way knowing this about you.

In the u.s right now, another example, so it’s one thing if they are representing these minorities, but it’s another if they are collecting data about you. For who knows what purposes.

Some more specific sources on games representing marginalized identities. A continuation on that list of games I showed you.

Splatoon 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kW4V3sVdigU Hair style is no longer decided by gender, unlike in earlier entries of the game.

Spyro 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1V8HZPPoaI Spyro represents ace vibes in one part of the ending cutscenes for the game. For a PS1 game particularly this is important. After seeing Mario saving Peach in another castle for how many so times.

I have a few things, along with specific examples.

1. There was a glad study on LGBTQ+ representation in games.

Studies indicate a significant presence of LGBTQ+ individuals within the gaming community. Notably, GLAAD’s research, based on Nielsen surveys, highlights that a considerable percentage of active gamers identify as LGBTQ+. Specifically, the GLAAD report shows that 17% of active gamers are LGBTQ+.

2. There is LGBTQ+ representation in games you probably wouldn’t expect.

a. In Splatoon 3 on the Nintendo Switch, you have your inkling and Octoling avatars, but they are not gender locked meaning you can have voices of the opposite gender, despite the hair style. Could also be looked at as representing feminism.

b. In a Spyro 3 Year of the Dragon, Spyro the dragon originally released on the PS1, shows some asexual aspects when hunter and bianca kiss in an ending cutscene. Ace vibes. Tells Sparx to look away,

3. Fan posts, allow marginialled queer and LGBTQ fans of a franchise to have their side represented, even if in an uncannon way. Very important for representation.

While their past behavior was inexcusable, not many people actually know about aromantic and asexual identities, when most people think of LGBTQ+ the default stereotype is trans, gay and bi people. People don’t actually know that it extends beyond that, because of that stereotype.

I do give the op credit for opening up and talking about it, and moving on pass their past bad experience for a better future, which seemed to be their end goal here.

I agree with, the post op on this, because look. If a person identifying as one gender is cross dressing to look a certain way, they are not trans just from that because at the end of the day it is just cloths. Also where you say, “You don’t think about how you respond to people’s missteps” you seem to be broadly talking more than just simply cross dressing, but since you didn’t say anything specific I won’t judge you, but that is suspicious.

Ok, so as an aromantic person, (which is similar to Ace.) I got to say that Asexual and Aromantic people absolutely do fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

In fact, in the “LGBTQIA” the a stands for asexual.

Not many people actually know the following. (all of it)

Here is how this works in practice. I think this could help you out with getting over the grudge, to help you better understand the entirety of the LGBTQ+ umbrella.

LGBTQ, isn’t exclusive to just gay, and bi people, nor transpeople (they are included under that of course) Lgbtq has to do with, standards that are different from the normal, being straight, getting married as a straight couple, and all that.

asexual, particularly is a marginalized identity, because as a person that is that isn’t attracted to a person sexually, that right there is a marginalized voice. People have been made fun of for not having a love one, i’m sure of it.

Straight people can technically fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella if they meet certain marginalized identities. If you don’t believe me. A trans person, can technically identify as straight, based off their gender identity if they wanted to be straight. See but a trans person is still a marginalized person. The + in the LGBTQ means that the identity doesn’t end there, it’s always evolving.

But if you are straight in the traditional way, which asexual is *not the traditional straight identity, then you would not be marginalized.

edit: wanted to clarify that, just because someone *is asexual does not mean they will be straight. and an sexual person may still feel a bonding, or romantic attraction, but nothing sexual. Based on the identity meaning.

I dislike ai, but this is good, since it’s not like you are locked into it with an account, like a wall garden.

This be scary.

Happens, although those situations aren’t always in a dating context. Always helps to find out ahead of time what that person you’re going to various places with might view of it. That ghosting experience, can be very real especially if you don’t know what might had triggered that.

1. general treatment. I’m treated fairly in general, there have been a few people that were against me just for saying I was aromantic. Not just on Lemmy, which yes even on Lemmy I had some gatekeepers targeting just the fact I labeled myself with the term. (strangely never happened to me on Mastodon.) But in actuality this bigotry is seemingly few and far between (on the Fediverse side of things).

Most on Lemmy seem to look past that I am aromantic, but they don’t necessarily hate it, or despise it. It might not be for them, or they might experience another type of attraction and I respect that. Over all treatment is pretty fair. (on the Fediverse, where I mostly am active at on the internet. (wait untill I get into what I think about this regarding x.)

In real life it’s a small percentage of people who are hating on the Aromantic identity decision, but just because it’s associated with LGBT. They don’t actually focus on what it actually means. and I do think this is unfortunate people hate on any minorities under lgbtq+ in generally, including aromantic.

Now if I were to start talking about X, my perspective might not be as peaceful, while their are some tears, it’s really not that bad on the Fediverse. On X I predict a large increase of peoplewith bad intentions who would be targeting just the fact I label myself as aromatic.

2. Regarding partner treatment. While I can’t give a direct answer to partners as a aromantic, for everyone, I can give my perspective on how I see it. and some possible scenarios.

Being aromantic and being with a partner, there are actually a few possible scenarios and possibly counting+ so not limited to what I might talk about in this post.

a. The partner, could still be romantic themselves. I might not like it, but could tolerate it under certian conditions. Like, if it wasn’t too publicly obvious. So basically, dinning, and other casual activities would generally be fine with me if it isn’t too lovey dovey, or publicly flirty. (in the romantic context, anything else, whether it flies with an aromantic can vary on the individual aromantic person.)

b. The partner, might also be aromantic. Ideally the best scenario for the aromantic person, if they aren’t wanting to do anything they don’t want to.

c. The worst case would be considered toxic for the aromantic person, where their partner does not admire that they are not into romance, may beg and plead them to do romantic things publicly.

For me my partners is very accepting, no bad experiences. We live everyday lives, nothing negative there.

Overall, in order to be aromantic, I see the signs and like other minorities, we need to fight for our rights to exist.

lemmy.ml mod banned them from their server for ‘gatekeeping’, and removed their comments. I’m actually impressed, mainly because I got a mixed response to being aromantic on Lemmy, which I wasn’t really expecting given how LGBT friendly the Fediverse on other platforms is known for being. But this is mainly based off of two users, one on each aromantic related community. But still. 50/50 reception over all so far.

I found out from their moderation history, that they were highlighted as being an alt right troll, regarding past comments they posted, which fits because they were seeming a bit off from the normal Lemmy user. They were also, so far, the only person to reply to the post on that community.

Lemmy.ml I thought was one of the accepting instances, then I found the user wasn’t using an account directly on Lemmy.ml. I reported the user to see where it goes. How Lemmy.ml handles it.

Had someone, on Lemmy.ml question why I picked this identity. Not sure how to feel about that. Some day I posted about it on this community. On a similarly named aromantic community hosted on lemmy.world. Honestly, blahaj.zone has a more seemless vibe to it overall. This must be how the lgbtq+ community feels as a whole. While i’m still conversating with them in the comments, they seem to be trying to take this middle position of not invalidating my experience, while questioning why I chose that. Not sure if that is phobic or not.

It seems like every few months or so I look into my identity again and may decide that, based on my last identity, that while I identify with this, but in this way. Figuring out what matches me with all the terms, isn’t necessarily difficult but self exploring can be time consuming and figuring out what fits you. While some people might look at it as romance, preassumingly.

Different perspectives can help you learn from others experiences. Having that extra confidence that you don’t have to act or be a certain way, perform certian actions can be relieving to a relationship.

Even as an aromantic person, from time to time I might head out with my partner, we might get something to eat, we don’t consider it like a romantic date it’s just casual just going out, hanging out etc. People would consider it as romance. We do bond on some things, but we’re still not dedicated to the romantic aspects. But doesn’t mean we won’t go out and eat or do activities together.

I can tell you I am accepting of you and your partners, and yeah just whatever keeps you all intact and your well being healthy just go with it.