• abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Mostly if you need help you should help yourself first. Then if you’re happy and capable, you need to help others. Not the other way around

    I think you’re not getting what they’re saying. Of course you can only work on yourself, but therapy doesn’t exist in a vacuum and frequently you’re just learning coping mechanisms for the status quo. Which is frequently good, being able to cope with society and remain functional is good, but people often have coping as the goal instead of merely being a step.

    This person wants to change the system so coping mechanisms aren’t necessary to deal with society

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      4 days ago

      Of course you can only work on yourself, but therapy doesn’t exist in a vacuum and frequently you’re just learning coping mechanisms for the status quo.

      I doubt this is true. This feels like something that I would have told myself before therapy so I wouldn’t have to deal with myself