I mean, mostly, yeah. The issue is, while most people will say dude is gender neutral, it really depends on the person.
I’m trans, I have two friends who call friends dude. One is a woman who I have known for like 5 years and will call everyone and everything dude. When she says it I don’t feel weird about it.
I have another friend who says dude is gender neutral and I’ve known them for about the same amount of time. However, I have never heard them call a woman dude. They say they do, but I our mostly female friend group, I think I’ve only ever heard it towards me.
That’s really the issue. People will say it’s gender neutral but not use it neutrally, and believe me, trans people notice it. Anecdotally, this is how my trans friends view it as well, but take my experience with a grain of salt.
I mean, mostly, yeah. The issue is, while most people will say dude is gender neutral, it really depends on the person.
I’m trans, I have two friends who call friends dude. One is a woman who I have known for like 5 years and will call everyone and everything dude. When she says it I don’t feel weird about it.
I have another friend who says dude is gender neutral and I’ve known them for about the same amount of time. However, I have never heard them call a woman dude. They say they do, but I our mostly female friend group, I think I’ve only ever heard it towards me.
That’s really the issue. People will say it’s gender neutral but not use it neutrally, and believe me, trans people notice it. Anecdotally, this is how my trans friends view it as well, but take my experience with a grain of salt.